“Slap Her": Children's Reactions

    

So this is a really nice, (though not without flaws) social experiment conducted in Italy that I think serves to open up the conversation about males being socialized to be violent.

   

Not a single one of the boys here was willing to slap her, so where and why does the problem of males acting violent toward women start? (And yes it is still a prevalent issue, and you can find proof here, and here, and if you google it you'll find thousands more) 

In all honesty it was much nicer to see responses like "I'm against violence" that did not mention gender as opposed to "you shouldn't hit a girl" or "I can't hit her because she's pretty", because while the 2nd and 3rd examples represent something good in that these boys are expressing that they are against being violent toward females, it doesn't represent being against being violent at all. 

The last example also represents how indoctrinated in society the idea of assigning value to females based on their looks is, which is total BS. 

It's really cool that these boys are against hitting the girl, it really is, but in order for violence to stop being such a big issue we need to teach young people to not be violent for the right reasons, namely because it harms the other person and we should be empathetic toward those around us. I think it's only when we teach people to think a little more about how things will affect others that we're going to get concrete results in trying to make sure people stop hurting other people so much. 

And before anyone calls misandry, (and I do have a post lined up addressing this, so be on the lookout for that!) my next point is that I think it's important that we teach all kids to not be violent at all and not just to not be violent toward a group. Violence against women is a more prevalent issue, but I don't think the latter method is going to do much to help society, we shouldn't give off the impression that we think male-male violence is okay, because that isn't either.

So one final thing I want to mention: someone in the comments section of where I first found this video brought up a point that I think is really important to note: all the boys were okay with reaching out to touch Martina without asking if she was okay with it. 

That speaks a lot to what our societies teach kids about consent, which is namely not much. There is no doubt a lot of importance in teaching kids to be non-violent, but we also need kids to know that you shouldn't go about invading people's space whenever you feel like/without knowing that they'd be okay with it; that women are not there for guys to touch and do whatever they please with. 

Well what do you know, this one turned out kinda legit blog-y post like, consider it a thing to tide you over until the next time I dig deep into an issue. :)

Once again, I'd love to know people's opinions on this, so please share them with me in the comments. 

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Maggs :)

Another Inspiring, Must-Watch Speech from Emma Watson

Emma Watson is honestly making me love her so much. This is her speech for HeForShe IMPACT 10x10x10 Program at the World Economic Forum 2015

   

She makes a small joke about it in this speech, but she truly writes such great speeches and delivers them in such a passionate, moving way. 

For those of you who are regular readers of my blog: first thank you, it's really cool that you would take your time to read the stuff I write about. Second, the end of the semester has kept me uber busy, so sorry about putting zero things up. And I know this isn't very much either, but it's (sort of?) something to tide you over right? 

Rest assured I have a lot of things planned, I just don't really have the time right now. 

Look out for something on Tuesday though! I'll be finished my exams and should have a lot more time. 

Stay Awesome!

- Maggs :)

You Don't Agree with Someone? That's Totally Fine, but Here's What to NOT do About it

I thought this was an appropriate post to put up today considering everything that's been happening in France, primarily Paris, lately.

The world is outraged, horrified, and saddened by these tragic events, and before I go into the main idea of this post I thought I'd do my part in stopping the spread of Islamophobia in it's tracks. 

The actions of these extremists SHOULD NOT IN ANY WAY be taken to reflect the beliefs and ideologies of all Muslims. These individuals are extremists, they, quite frankly, use religion as an excuse to do awful things. (Or at least delude themselves into thinking what they're doing is right because of religion). It is illogical and unfair to tie the general Muslim population to extremists. 

Ahmed Merabet, The Muslim police officer that was killed

In fact, one of the officers killed on Wednesday was Muslim, he died protecting Charlie Hebdo's right to free speech. If you haven't already, I encourage you to look deeper into the double standards, and additional perspectives that mainstream media might not be providing.

Onto the body of the post:

Originally, this post was to come right after the Good Drowned out by Bad Post (And it'd still probably be of use to read that one before reading this one), but things changed. 

Let me begin by saying that people deciding it's okay to threaten somebody over exercising their right to freedom of expression is something that bothers me to no end. 

First off, it's seriously not cool to threaten someone period. 

Second, there is a person on the receiving end, a person who has feelings just like you, and your threat, whether you meant it or not, can make them feel unsafe, and EVERYONE is entitled to feeling safe.

It just makes absolutely makes no sense. Somebody expresses themselves, and maybe it hurt your pride, maybe it offended you, but are those grounds to threaten that person's well-being? 

To me at least, it seems like doing so is just WAY overcompensating for the harm that was inflicted on you. 

Because it's not like it's threats such as "I will slap you" It's things like "I'll kill you", "I'll rape you" (particularly common when directed at a woman) and "I hope you get Ebola". 

For me, this seems to show either calculated malice, or ignorant insensitivity (or both). 

And I've seen all of these threats made myself. The Ebola one was during a time where the Ebola outbreak was a really big thing, and it was directed toward Taylor Swift on a commercial she'd done for Diet Coke. 


The person said they hated Taylor, and wished the disease upon her. First off, how do you hate someone you have likely never met? Why would you bother to hate someone you don't know?

Second, I think it's a pretty good example of a very troubling trend with these threats. 

There will always be the generic "I will kill you", but it's things like "I will rape you" and "I will post personal photos of you" that really bother me, because regardless if they are empty threats, it displays a level of thought and deliberation on how to violate the person so that they feel as awful as possible.

Morals should not end up like this monitor

We need to move away from that, we need to stop being so negative and hateful. Yeah people's opinions can be misinformed and awful, yeah they can mean change and that can be scary, but we shouldn't be willing to throw morals out the window because somebody said something. 

And even if the person making the threat doesn't mean to go through with it, it could inspire somebody that would go through with it. 
  
Words might not be able to do much by themselves, but they can serve as ignition for scary things - after all, it was words that started and allowed some of the worst events in human history to happen.

"Yes we all have the right to an opinion, and freedom of expression and they're great things, but we don't always have to use them."

  
Many of those threats are made thoughtlessly on the internet, and that's one sucky thing about the web, what happens there seems less "real", so doing something online doesn't seem like a big deal. (rhyming unintended ;))

But the fact of the matter is that it is. It means

people feel the need to leave their homes, and if people go through with the threats, it means people are hurt. 

There are appropriate ways to express dissatisfaction with an opinion, and threatening the person that holds that opinion is NOT on of them. 

So people if we could all please just take a moment and consider what we're doing before we say/post/tweet/text etc. something? And this I mean to apply to all scenarios. Because so many hurt feelings and hurt feelings that lead to awful events can so easily be avoided. 

And this is not to say I'm cool with people expressing harmful, violent opinions. Yes we all have the right to an opinion, and freedom of expression and they're great things, but we don't always have to use them. Nobody is forcing you to speak your opinions, and if it's not going to do any good expressing it, then maybe you should consider not expressing it at all.

At the end of the day, we need to make sure it's our moral compass that guides us, not anything else, because only then can everyone live a better life. 

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I'd love to hear what you people think, so share your opinions with me in the comments! :) 

Just a heads up, exams are coming up and I'm not going to be able to guarantee the usual post a week for the next bit. I might share some pictures or songs or something, but legit blog-y posts might take a while. 

Until next time!
- Maggs :)